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Watching Someone Fall

December 13, 2010

Have you ever noticed that people who are making choices that steer them away from the light and towards a place of darkness, deception, shame or confusion actually believe that no one is noticing; that nobody is watching? You’ve grown up together, you’ve strengthened friendships through sharing one another’s highs and lows…And all of a sudden…

Something is different. There is distance. There’s a fog that creeps in amongst what used to be clear. At first it’s not all that tangible and you dismiss those prickly senses as your own insecurities or shortcomings. And sometimes it IS you, but this time it’s not. You know there’s something very wrong; very different with this person. They’ve made a choice to “go on alone” and you can see it in their eyes. If I had to describe it, it’s this layered expression on their faces that looks “put together” and “carefully constructed”  over the top of the truth screaming “I don’t know how to get back from this…Drowning in this might be the only option left…I’ve been duped…which way toward the light again?”

And if you’re someone like me who’s chosen darkness many times only to just barely grasp – or be snatched up by –  a strong rescuing hand, you might find this to be true:  That you start to be granted clarity in noticing people who are suffocating themselves through their choices and are using all of their energy to keep up the facade…and still failing miserably.

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4 Comments leave one →
  1. December 13, 2010 8:45 pm

    This is a sad post, but SO beautifully written…

    • December 15, 2010 10:35 am

      Thanks Lisa — it is sad and it’s so hard to figure out the balancing act of praying for them, speaking into their lives (truth in love but also just being there to listen when they’re ready to chat).

  2. January 22, 2011 7:28 pm

    I have actually quoted you on this – when sometimes a person feels like they’ve fallen so far that, “Drowning in this might be the only option left.” It’s a horrible place to be.

    • January 22, 2011 11:29 pm

      Chrissy – so glad this post spoke to you. It IS a horrible place to be but I am certain that it’s still a place out of which God can pull any person. And He wants to! But so many times it’s that very person who is held neck deep in their own mire — who can’t see the need to invite God into their mess. And let’s not forget about the fact that there is evil in the world that contorts and twists what is true; whispering the fallacy that the person can never get back up from their fall; that others will see the mask the person’s been wearing and be disappointed or even hate them. And those whispers are meant “to steal, kill, and destroy”… that’s it.

      But that one decision; that single utterance for help from the one who feels sunk to The One who created us; Who created Love; Who is Love…brings on the first gasp of crisp restoration…allowing in His healing; which can still be painful.

      But the cleansing and healing is necessary…no matter the cost.

      Blessings in the name of the Healer!

      Joel

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